Thursday, April 3, 2014

Paul Newman's Letter To His Wife On Their Wedding Day

 
"Happiness in marriage is
 
not something that just happens.
 
A good marriage must be created.
 
In the Art of Marriage,
 
the little things are the big things.
 
It is never being too old to hold hands.
 
It is remembering to say 'I love you'
 
at least once a day.
 
It is never going to sleep angry.
 
It is at no time taking
 
the other for granted;  the courtship should
 
not end with the honeymoon;
 
it should continue through all the years.
 
It is having a mutual sense of values
 
and common objectives.
 
It is standing together facing the world.
 
It is forming a circle of love that
 
gathers in the whole family.
 
It is doing things for each other,
 
not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
 
but in the spirit of joy.
 
It is speaking words of appreciation
 
and demonstrating gratitude
 
in thoughtful ways.  It is not expecting
 
the husband to wear a halo or the wife
 
to have the wings of an angel.
 
It is not looking for perfection
 
in each other.  It is cultivating
 
flexibility, patience, understanding
 
and a sense of humor.
 
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
 
It is giving each other an
 
 atmosphere in which each can grow.
 
It is finding rooms for things of the spirit.
 
It is a common search
 
for the good and the beautiful.
 
It is establishing a relationship in
 
which the independence is equal,
 
dependence is mutual and
 
obligation is reciprocal.  It is not only
 
marrying the right partner,
 
it is being the right partner."
 


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